Over the years…

Thursday night is just one of those days. I have absolutely nothing going on and I just don’t want to do anything. On days like these, I am anything but productive, and on this day in particular, I just feel like writing. I turned on ABC Family to watch the Nightmare Before Christmas, and this made me think of things that I have recently been obsessed with. When I have an obsession, it isn’t overbearing. I just find that there have been a few recurring themes over certain periods of time in my life, and that is my definition of an obsession. So here is a list of things that I have been seriously interested in, or have had a great love for throughout my life.

My crayon tower consisting of 150 crayons=awesomeness

Eagles. The animal, not any sports team you may be thinking of. Ever since I was little, I have always loved eagles. Little did I know I would be attending a school at which the mascot is an eagle, and I can’t say I wasn’t thrilled when I found out. I’ll also confess that I have a massive eagle collection in my room, consisting of anything from a stuffed animal to an eagle-headed walking stick.

Crayons. When I was in sixth and seventh grade, I was obsessed with crayons. I wanted every type of crayon to be in my possession. I also had things like crayon erasers and crayon bubbles. (How can you even have crayon bubbles? I don’t know, but I had them.) Truthfully, I still consider crayons to be the best writing utensil ever made. They smell really good, and have a nice texture to them. They never run out of ink, and if they get dull, you can sharpen them these days. If they break, tough luck, you use the biggest half. Not to mention they come in just about every color you can think of, and then some.

Sesame Street.

In seventh grade, I decided that I wanted to be a little kid again. My childhood pretty much revolved around Sesame Street, so I regressed and clung onto that idea for awhile. I even had a Sesame Street birthday party. I deemed Oscar the grouch as my favorite character, and decided I hated the new pink fairy girl. Anyway, I was really into it. I asked for this really awesome book for Christmas that year called “Unpaved” and it included secrets and facts about each of the popular episodes throughout Sesame Street history. I was at the library the other day, and ran across a complete history of Sesame Street, so I checked it out. I will never get around to reading it, but it reminded me of the significant role Sesame Street has played for me, as not only a childhood memory, but a memory to last my whole life.

Seashells.

She sells sea shells by the sea shore. She really does, I’ve been there.

I used to venture out to the beach in the spring with my family, and we’d shell hunt like crazy. I have tons of really cool ones, and they are all so different and interesting. I still love my shells.

Makeup and Nail Polish. Okay, not many girls skip the period of life where they think makeup is all that matters. I was there once, and it was around the end of my eighth grade year. I took it so far as to read about ways to apply it and experiment with colors that I wouldn’t dream of putting on my face to this day. I actually had days when all I wanted to do was sit down and do my makeup and hair and nails, because that’s what I call a good time. I had a best friend who loved doing her nails, and we’d paint the coolest designs on our nails. I kind of miss those days.

Gimp. I went through a huge phase in eighth grade where all of my free time was spent making gimp key chains. I made some pretty cool ones and those of you that know me have definitely seen them on my bags and stuff. I was overjoyed when I was able to teach a bunch of kids how to make them at a camp over the summer. My skills were finally put to good use.

My gimp looks way cooler than this, no worries.

Tim Burton. I have always had this admiration and love for anything written or directed or produced by Tim Burton. He’s so well known, yet never seems to show his face, unlike most other popular figures whose faces seem to show up on the cover of every magazine. This may be for a reason though. He doesn’t go out much, and it shows. Anyway, I love this man. I especially love all the creativity and talent and hard work he put into The Nightmare Before Christmas, my favorite movie of all times. Dark Shadows was a good one too, along with everything else he’s ever done.

Mr. Tim Burton himself. Not his most attractive photo, but none of them really are… like I said, he doesn’t get out much.

Halloween. I love Halloween, and have deemed it my favorite holiday. I look forward to it every year, and actually set aside time to celebrate it. I love love LOVE carving pumpkins, digging out the guts and squishing them in my hands, baking the pumpkin seeds, and snacking on them while partaking in my traditional watching of the nightmare before Christmas (yes, there is a theme here). I also love candy. And I love scary things.

Nothing is better than dissecting a pumpkin on Halloween.

Nonfiction. Ever since fifth grade, when I was required to read 20 books of different genres. I read so much fantasy that year, and I decided I was done. I have been completely unable to read a fiction book since then, except for school, which is sad. The only type of reading I do these days is informational, or memoirs and I’m okay with that. Now, I get really fired up when someone starts talking about all the reading they do, and all these great adventures the characters took. Sorry, but I just don’t have the motivation to dive into some fantasy that doesn’t even exist, when I have my own life and the lives of people I care about to keep track of.

Music. I have a great appreciation for music and always will. I love singing, playing instruments, listening to singers and instruments, writing music, conducting it, whatever you can think of. Get involved in music. It’s the universal language.

Our Beautiful Lady.

Devotion to Mary, mother of God. She is an awesome role model. She is perfect. Loving. Devoted. Hard working. Compassionate. Strong. I could go on and on. All of the prayers written to her are beautiful and so meaningful. If you don’t know much about her, you should look into it.

Such wondrous creatures.

Giraffes. I love giraffes, one of my most recent obsessions. They are so unique and mysterious. Their pattern, and shape, and everything about them. They just look like a peaceful species. (Please don’t comment some absurd fact about how vicious these creatures actually are in the wild. If they have a wild side, don’t tell me. I want to maintain my peaceful image.)

MARSUPIALS. This is it, my final obsession. Kangaroos, koalas, wombats. I love marsupials! Partially because I love the letter K, and kangaroo and koala both start with K, but mostly because marsupials have pouches, which is different from any other kind of animal, and I find this really cool.

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distracted driving

Driving while distracted is one of those topics that get me fired up! I think that has something to do with the fact that a distracted couple hit me a month ago, and my car was in the shop for more than a month waiting to get fixed because their extremely stubborn insurance company would not send us the money for the repairs! All is well, though. I have my car back. That doesn’t calm me down enough, considering in the past week, two more distracted drivers have almost hit my car again. I enjoyed reading an article on the Psych Central website about the causes and effects of distracted driving. The article pointed out that research is done on the causes and effects of distraction so often, but the results can only prove so much. It proves to those who drive that common sense in itself would seem to tell them that texting or putting on makeup or reading while driving does not make any sense whatsoever. No matter how many laws and consequences come about, people are still going to do these things. This is why I firmly believe that texting, talking, or even looking away from the road are all seriously big risks to take, especially when driving in the city. I also enjoyed reading about cognitive distractions. I never really put thought into how often I find myself daydreaming and my consciousness drifting. All the sudden, I get really close to the cars in front of me. It makes sense. Because our minds are focused on drifting thoughts, they lose focus on the actual stimuli around us.

Another point that was brought up was the distraction of the radio. I never thought of this as a distraction before. It is not much of a distraction compared to the use of cell phones or eating, but I find that if my radio is turned up really loud, or even slightly loud, I am not as focused on driving as I am when it is at a quiet or moderate volume.

Another thing I’d love to share about my driving experience is a small anecdote about my day at a driving clinic over the summer. It was sponsored by Ford, and it was free! (Let’s be honest, these days, when anything is free, we’re all over it.) So I went, with my mom and brother, by force. I did not want to go. I heard they were going to make me drive fast or do dangerous things that I didn’t trust myself at all with doing. Anyway, when I got there, I met famous movie stunt drivers, and famous race car drivers! I actually got to drive in brand new cars with these awesome drivers! I got to bring the car around to a long runway, where three cones were set up quite a ways down the road. I hit the gas, and went full speed at the cones, as a traffic light on either the right or the left cone turned green right before me, and I had to immediately swerve to whichever side on which the traffic light turned green. It was scary, but awesome. The purpose of the exercise was to teach drivers how to avoid an accident or obstacle without hitting the brakes, specifically on the highway. After that, we moved on to a distracted driving exercise. We had to drive an SUV around tight curves, stop signs, road blocks, detours, and obstacles, while attempting to send a text message. We were supposed to maintain a constant speed, and were not allowed to come to a complete stop. IT WAS HARD. I stopped dozens of times, and failed to stop at a couple of stop signs, and didn’t take the right detour. I missed the detour sign! It was somewhat embarrassing. I did it again while trying to drink out of a water bottle. I came up to a tight curve in the road, and I subconsciously switched my focus onto the road, and dumped the water all over me. I think going to that workshop was one of the best learning experiences of my life. Now, when I see people on the road that aren’t using their common sense, I want to send them to that Ford clinic and teach them a lesson!

A Controversy on Confirmation

Confirmation has been given to students around the ages of thirteen or fourteen for a long time, and there does not seem to be a problem. However, all teens, even myself, will go through a time of questioning and rebellion at age fifteen or sixteen, and may even regret having been confirmed. Confirmation requires an understanding of the Catholic faith and a desire to live one’s faith to its full potential. Until a more mature age, most students are not ready to make this commitment. Although the sacrament of Confirmation is offered to young teenagers, it would be more effective if given to young adults, to ensure more time for preparation and proper decision making.

One of the hardest things about early teenage years is the many hardships and changes that this age group faces. During these years, friends come and go, families fall apart, school becomes much harder and more responsibilities seem to be piled onto the students. It is hard to go through all of this alone. Many parents and students may believe that it is in this time of life especially that one needs to receive guidance from the Church and God’s grace through Confirmation.

Some people believe that it is best for young children or teens to receive Confirmation because by the age of seven, children have already developed the ability to reason and make judgments. By seventh or eighth grade, students are well past the point of being able to make decisions of their own.  Some may also believe that students who are going through the process to receive Confirmation have been properly educated in the faith. Many students attend Catholic schools for at least a year or two, and if not, attend parish schools of religion weekly. In addition, most of the students have grown up in a Catholic family, and are more than ready to confirm their faith and receive the grace to live it out to their fullest potential.

Because many students are more than ready to receive the wonderful sacrament at an earlier age, most parishes suggest that Confirmation be received by a very particular age group. More often than not, Confirmation is only offered to young teenagers, in seventh or eighth grade. However, these students may not be ready to take this step of faith on their own. Even with a sponsor, the student may not be capable of understanding on a personal level how sacred Confirmation is and what it truly means, let alone how it will affect one’s life in the future. The sponsor can teach the confirmand why God created humans: to know, to love, and to serve him. (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2304) The sponsor can share his or her Confirmation memories with the confirmand. The sponsor can inspire the confirmand to take the sacrament seriously. The sponsor cannot, however, ensure that the confirmand understands the sacrament and plans on living out one’s faith. Because middle school students may not be ready to take the leap in faith that Confirmation calls for, it would be best for the distribution of the sacrament to be postponed a few more years.

The guidance and support that students need so desperately during their teenage years can be given in more effective ways than through a metaphysical sacrament. For example, support groups in parish communities or schools can be formed and offered to students who are struggling with certain issues. Youth groups are now available to middle school students, and are great opportunities to grow deeper in faith and form positive friendships. It is unnecessary to use Confirmation as the “go to” for grace and love in times of need. Confirmation is so much more, and should only be received when one feels truly ready.

Confirmation is a deeply spiritual experience that requires thought and meditation beyond the capabilities or desires of young teenagers. A study done by psychologist Lawrence Kohlberg in 1969 showed that almost seventy-five percent of all people will remain in a conventional level of thinking, based on conformity to society, throughout their entire lives. Only twenty-five percent will move on to a level in which they apply their own morals and principles to their reasoning, and will not reach this level until the age of sixteen! This proves that most adolescents going into Confirmation have no idea what they really believe for themselves. They are not psychologically capable of making the commitment to the Lord that Confirmation is asking them to make! They need three or four more years to mature and explore what they are interested in. If they already know they are interested in the Catholic faith, then they need the extra three or four years to learn and grow deeper in their relationship with God before they make the full commitment to him. The Sacrament of Confirmation brings a heavy responsibility, yet a wonderful reward to whomever wishes to receive it. This concept is hard to understand; therefore, the commitment is hard to make, especially at a young age.

Confirmation is conventionally given to thirteen or fourteen year old students who may not understand their faith and the lasting grace they are receiving. Faith is a gift from God, given to everyone, yet many people have not willingly received the gift or have yet to discover it. Consequently, the meaning of Confirmation is taken away. Some students only take it because their parents are strong in faith and have felt the duty to raise their children Catholic. Some students go through the sacrament because they see all of their classmates going through with it, and would it not be so much easier to conform than to go through the trouble of making an exception?  Although many of the students have a deep longing for a relationship with God and feel ready for the commitment, many students do not. As Joseph Martos, a sacramental historian at Bellarmine University in Louisville, KY, said, “Unless people, when they’re confirmed, are actually making a passage in their life… then there isn’t any meaning in the sacrament of confirmation, because the meaning comes from what’s going on in the person’s life at the time.” A person’s knowledge and desire, or lack thereof,  in receiving Confirmation has a very strong affect on the meaning the sacrament holds, in the same way that a person who had never heard music and had no desire to would experience hearing a symphony differently than a person who had a great knowledge and appreciation of music. Because that person lacks understanding or desire, the symphony sounds like noise that needs to end soon. To the person receiving Confirmation with a lack of understanding and desire, the sacrament looks like a single event or a process to go through. Because the music lover has a knowledge and appreciation for it, the symphony sounds like a beautiful melody that will play over and over inside one’s head for days. To the person receiving Confirmation with a deep knowledge and love of the faith, the sacrament is a journey and a gift that will last until death. Faith is a gift, and unless it is sought and developed before receiving the sacrament of Confirmation, the sacrament will hold no meaning.

Finally, once the age of conformity and conventional thinking passes, there comes an age of rebellious nature. At this age, teens will want to believe anything other than what their parents are asking them to believe. Many stop going to Mass and praying. They consider themselves atheists or Buddhists or whatever else they can think of that is not the common “Catholic” or “Christian.” This is why Confirmation should not be offered at the ages of fifteen or sixteen either. Students need time to pass this stage, and figure out what they want in life. They need time to mature so that they can form clear values and morals for themselves. As stated in the Catechism, “Confirmation is sometimes called the sacrament of Christian maturity.” (CCC 1308) The sacrament of Confirmation is supposed to be given to those who are spiritually mature. Once students reach this point of maturity, they will be capable of making a clear decision in faith, and will convert out of rebellion and back to the church. In this conversion, they will seek the Lord in a more special way than they would have if forced into the sacrament at a young age. Going into the sacrament with confidence and excitement sets one up to come out of the sacrament filled with grace and ready to commit to one’s mission for the Lord. This seems like a much better alternative than going into the sacrament blind and unwilling, and coming out of it having been given a special gift of grace, yet not feeling ready or willing to give back to the Lord.

It would be best for students to wait until a more mature age to receive the sacrament of Confirmation, giving them more time to prepare and to decide if it is what they truly want. Although they face many hardships during early adolescent years, and can easily make decisions for themselves at an early age, Confirmation is more than just a gift of grace or a simple decision between two different cereals. Confirmation is a commitment to live a life of faith in God and to live out the faith in love, service, prayer, and in every aspect of life. This concept may not be easy to grasp in adolescence, especially because of certain patterns of psychological development. To ensure that the sacrament is received willingly and knowledgeably, it is necessary that time is allowed for maturity before the sacrament is given.

if you must ask…

This being my first post and all, it will indeed appear very spontaneous and random. But, in fact, this is a topic that has been lingering in my mind for weeks now, and I would love to share it. It is finally December (well pretty much.. its November 28th), which entails a very nerve-racking season at Bishop Watterson High School. The month of December kicks off the season of Cotillion (our winter formal dance). The dance, however, isn’t until the middle of January. December is when the guys start thinking about the girls, and the girls start thinking about the guys, and the askings begin. Now, if you are like me, and have absolutely no one in mind, but speculate that there may be certain someones that have you in mind,  you begin to panic. I am currently in a state of panic, but its a relaxed panic. A panic in the back of my mind, that I tell myself to push aside. “Everything will be ok,” I tell myself subconsciously. But now that I have brought my repressed panic to the surface, I decided I would be somewhat okay with getting asked to the dance, but only if the boy takes the time to get to know me, and asks me in a meaningful way. And by meaningful, I mean something that only I understand, like an inside joke, or something I love, or if worst comes to worst and no boy ever takes the time to get to know me, it better be something extremely clever.

After much consideration on the subject, I have put together a top 5 ways I’d love to be asked to Cotillion. (or Prom, or senior Cotillion, or senior Prom, or on a date, or to be married…)

#1 Just ask me. Honestly, I just want to be asked in private, away from the hectic hallways and the chaotic cafeteria, just alone, you and me. I don’t want to feel the pressure of the people around me, people I may not even know, to just say yes because other people want me to. I want to be asked with patience. You ask, and I stand there quietly and decide. Maybe it will take three milliseconds for me to come up with an answer, if I feel that strongly about it, and maybe it could take three minutes. A girl needs her time, and being given time to truly answer you means a lot to me.

#2 This one is a little less conventional, more on the “inside joke” spectrum. I call this one The giraffe bouquet. This initially sounds really strange. I have a special love for giraffes, but I definitely do not want some guy to go whipping out a few giraffes tied together at the neck or something sick like that, but I want a bouquet of giraffe patterned flowers. I was shopping at the new Michael’s store at Graceland the other day, because I love Michael’s, and I am ecstatic that one of their locations is now only 2 miles from my school, where I practically live these days. Anyway, I was looking for flowers to fill a gift basket I was making for my aunts, and I came across a bouquet of giraffe printed flowers! The flowers of course, were fake, but hey, anything giraffe beats a real bouquet of roses, and I’ll take it! Image

#3 Going back to normalcy for a minute, I’d like to mention that I’d really love to be asked to Cotillion by a friend, as a friend, in which case we would simply go as friends. I kind of have this secret desire to have some sort of romantic date for at least one of my high school dances, but right now, I just want a friend to go with. It would be fun and memorable, but not threatened by stress or heartbreak or disaster. Everything would go right, because when you are with a friend who loves you, what could possibly go wrong?

#4 Number four is one for those boys who don’t have the energy or decency to get to know me before asking me to spend one of my most anticipated and possibly most memorable experiences of high school with them. This is simply a clever idea, maybe unoriginal, who knows, but I like. And this isn’t my idea either. I like food, and I especially like pizza, so ordering a pizza and having it delivered to my house with a note inside the box saying something clever like, “Will you go to the dance with me, or is this too cheesy?” It sounds like an excellent idea to me. And make sure it’s cheese only, please 🙂 It’ll be even more cheesy that way.

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#5 Don’t even. Really, if your some random guy that thinks I’m attractive, but has never had the balls to move past the “Hey, how are you?” stage of talking, don’t even try. Please, being asked to a dance isn’t the most important thing in my life. (Even though I am obsessing over it right now, its really not a big deal.) I just think that it has the potential to be a great thing, and if you are a boy that has taken the time to be my friend, accept who I truly am, and love me unconditionally, then you have the potential to make this dance (or any other) one of my most memorable experiences in high school.